Comments for A Weigh Out http://www.aweighout.com Just another WordPress weblog Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:35:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on State of Georgia; The Shame is on You! by Lakisha Smith http://www.aweighout.com/body-esteem/state-of-georgia-the-shame-is-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1817 Lakisha Smith Thu, 19 Jan 2012 03:04:49 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=9383#comment-1817 And it shames the parents as well. "My child's fat, because I'm fat..." I really truly detest this. If they focused on health and not a size, they might find that what they are actually funding is not a campaign for the good of their citizens, but fuel for the next generation of people with mental and emotional disorders. And it shames the parents as well. “My child’s fat, because I’m fat…” I really truly detest this. If they focused on health and not a size, they might find that what they are actually funding is not a campaign for the good of their citizens, but fuel for the next generation of people with mental and emotional disorders.

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]]> Comment on State of Georgia; The Shame is on You! by ladybug http://www.aweighout.com/body-esteem/state-of-georgia-the-shame-is-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1805 ladybug Sat, 14 Jan 2012 06:06:48 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=9383#comment-1805 They are on the wrong track. I'm a teacher and the first thought I thought when I saw this...bullying. GA is going to publicly sanction bullying and shaming these kids. Also, kids do not get overweight without the help of their parents and their school cafeterias. I like the way Michelle Obama is going about this issue, by emphasizing eating more fruits/veggies and exercising more. Keep it positive. They are on the wrong track. I’m a teacher and the first thought I thought when I saw this…bullying. GA is going to publicly sanction bullying and shaming these kids.

Also, kids do not get overweight without the help of their parents and their school cafeterias.

I like the way Michelle Obama is going about this issue, by emphasizing eating more fruits/veggies and exercising more. Keep it positive.

]]> Comment on State of Georgia; The Shame is on You! by Ellen Shuman, Emotional Eating Coach; A Weigh Out http://www.aweighout.com/body-esteem/state-of-georgia-the-shame-is-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1793 Ellen Shuman, Emotional Eating Coach; A Weigh Out Wed, 04 Jan 2012 18:30:06 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=9383#comment-1793 Great advice! And I'd start by putting all the "experts" who think a campaign like this is the answer, into a room and not let them out until they "get it"...until they undertand that anti-obesity campaigns like these, that contribute to shame and even bullying, have great potential to do harm vs. good. In my opinion, both their ignorance of the multitude of complex issues that underly obesity...and their "size-ism" are showing. If shaming people into losing weight worked, no one would be fat! What a harmful way to waste 25 million dollars! Great advice! And I’d start by putting all the “experts” who think a campaign like this is the answer, into a room and not let them out until they “get it”…until they undertand that anti-obesity campaigns like these, that contribute to shame and even bullying, have great potential to do harm vs. good. In my opinion, both their ignorance of the multitude of complex issues that underly obesity…and their “size-ism” are showing.

If shaming people into losing weight worked, no one would be fat! What a harmful way to waste 25 million dollars!

]]> Comment on State of Georgia; The Shame is on You! by Anmarie http://www.aweighout.com/body-esteem/state-of-georgia-the-shame-is-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1792 Anmarie Wed, 04 Jan 2012 18:07:41 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=9383#comment-1792 This is horrifying! The only thing kids will learn from this is how to feel like something is wrong with them - that they are broken, second- or third-rate beings not as "good" or "worthy" as everyone else. When you struggle to make changes to yourself to please the adults you love and respect, using partial or outright wrong techniques, these feelings only compound. That starts a domino effect of stricter dieting and harsher failures, leading to deeper pyschological and physical issues. Kids need to know they're accepted and acceptable just the way God made them. If a kid is fat, it's not likely the kid's fault. Kids do not buy the groceries. So, either he's mimicking habits of the adults around him, or he needs better coping skills to deal with whatever scary things are happening around him. My solution would be to make all the adults in the lives of these kids read and study Health at Every Size. Then I'd put all the kids in a junior A Weigh Out program...after a game of tag. :) This is horrifying! The only thing kids will learn from this is how to feel like something is wrong with them – that they are broken, second- or third-rate beings not as “good” or “worthy” as everyone else. When you struggle to make changes to yourself to please the adults you love and respect, using partial or outright wrong techniques, these feelings only compound. That starts a domino effect of stricter dieting and harsher failures, leading to deeper pyschological and physical issues.

Kids need to know they’re accepted and acceptable just the way God made them. If a kid is fat, it’s not likely the kid’s fault. Kids do not buy the groceries. So, either he’s mimicking habits of the adults around him, or he needs better coping skills to deal with whatever scary things are happening around him.

My solution would be to make all the adults in the lives of these kids read and study Health at Every Size. Then I’d put all the kids in a junior A Weigh Out program…after a game of tag. :)

]]> Comment on “I’m Loving the Journey” by Chrissy http://www.aweighout.com/an-end-to-emotional-eating-desperate-dieting/im-loving-the-journey/comment-page-1#comment-1723 Chrissy Tue, 20 Dec 2011 15:08:45 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=3975#comment-1723 Just wanted to mention that I totally understand how you can face the pain instead of ignoring it and covering it up with food. That's what I was doing for years! Just ignoring all those emotions, not wanting to deal with them and numbing myself with food. It actually feels a lot better in a weird way to confront my emotions because then I can figure out solutions or different perspectives. Just wanted to mention that I totally understand how you can face the pain instead of ignoring it and covering it up with food. That’s what I was doing for years! Just ignoring all those emotions, not wanting to deal with them and numbing myself with food. It actually feels a lot better in a weird way to confront my emotions because then I can figure out solutions or different perspectives.

]]> Comment on How can I like my body if I hate it? An error in thinking by Amy http://www.aweighout.com/an-end-to-emotional-eating-desperate-dieting/how-can-i-like-my-body-if-i-hate-it/comment-page-1#comment-1174 Amy Tue, 02 Aug 2011 18:40:28 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=5249#comment-1174 Ellen, I have such similar situations, I hate that a mother or anyone in a family could do that to a child, it is so sad! But I do know that they can because my own has done it to me so many times, as an adult that I felt so bad about myself I can not even put it into words. The pain that can come from feeling like your own mother doesn't accept you the way you are is very difficult, and the sad thing is I know my mom loves me very much. But, my own daughter is about 15 lbs overweight, she is beautiful and my mom makes comments, but I always get very firm with her when it comes to my daughter because I don't want her to experience that kind of hurt as well. I am trying to over come and the things I am learning from this site are helping. People tell me how beautiful I am, and inside I never believe them, I wonder how much I have affected my own husband and children by the negative feelings I have about myself, and I don't want that. I want to love myself! I relate very much to the things you say. In the 4th grade I was chubby, and a boy whom I had liked since kindergarten, said one day as we were all at recess and boys were chasing girls (if a boy caught a girl, he had to kiss them) he says to me, why are you running, "no one wants to kiss you if they catch you". I can still cry over that to this day. Later in life ironically, we dated for a very short time, and I weighed around 87-90 lbs, as a 10th grader, I am short and petite, and he would always say, gettin kinda fat, aren't you! Thank God I did not marry him, I married a wonderful man whom I know loves me and is so very good to me, now I just have to learn to be as good to me as I am everyone else. Thank you, I really think I'm going to get there. I love all the resources, what an awesome thing you are doing. Ellen, I have such similar situations, I hate that a mother or anyone in a family could do that to a child, it is so sad! But I do know that they can because my own has done it to me so many times, as an adult that I felt so bad about myself I can not even put it into words. The pain that can come from feeling like your own mother doesn’t accept you the way you are is very difficult, and the sad thing is I know my mom loves me very much. But, my own daughter is about 15 lbs overweight, she is beautiful and my mom makes comments, but I always get very firm with her when it comes to my daughter because I don’t want her to experience that kind of hurt as well. I am trying to over come and the things I am learning from this site are helping. People tell me how beautiful I am, and inside I never believe them, I wonder how much I have affected my own husband and children by the negative feelings I have about myself, and I don’t want that. I want to love myself! I relate very much to the things you say. In the 4th grade I was chubby, and a boy whom I had liked since kindergarten, said one day as we were all at recess and boys were chasing girls (if a boy caught a girl, he had to kiss them) he says to me, why are you running, “no one wants to kiss you if they catch you”. I can still cry over that to this day. Later in life ironically, we dated for a very short time, and I weighed around 87-90 lbs, as a 10th grader, I am short and petite, and he would always say, gettin kinda fat, aren’t you! Thank God I did not marry him, I married a wonderful man whom I know loves me and is so very good to me, now I just have to learn to be as good to me as I am everyone else. Thank you, I really think I’m going to get there. I love all the resources, what an awesome thing you are doing.

]]> Comment on Discover Your Beauty by Amy Hill http://www.aweighout.com/body-esteem/discover-your-beauty/comment-page-1#comment-1161 Amy Hill Tue, 12 Jul 2011 20:07:26 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=7867#comment-1161 Robin, I think I am realizing that I somehow feel guilty if I feel "beautiful" or if I say I am beautiful like that is prideful or conceited. I have people tell me how beautiful I am, and I don't feel it, yet I want to be beautiful. It confuses me, and I think it always goes back to being over weight and I am always judging myself by what I looked like when I was thin, and the constant looks or comments from others as they disaprove of my figure now. I am trying to change the voices in my head, about my worth being my jean size. Thank you Robin, I think I am realizing that I somehow feel guilty if I feel “beautiful” or if I say I am beautiful like that is prideful or conceited. I have people tell me how beautiful I am, and I don’t feel it, yet I want to be beautiful. It confuses me, and I think it always goes back to being over weight and I am always judging myself by what I looked like when I was thin, and the constant looks or comments from others as they disaprove of my figure now. I am trying to change the voices in my head, about my worth being my jean size. Thank you

]]> Comment on “Send that to me and heads would roll!” by Ellen Shuman, Emotional Eating Coach; A Weigh Out http://www.aweighout.com/an-end-to-emotional-eating-desperate-dieting/send-that-to-me-and-heads-would-roll/comment-page-1#comment-1135 Ellen Shuman, Emotional Eating Coach; A Weigh Out Wed, 22 Jun 2011 18:18:59 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=7848#comment-1135 I am so in agreement with your suggestion, AnMarie! I think your turn-about-is-fair-play idea is right on...send the sender a "concerned" postcard---get people to think before they judge...especially when their judgments are based on erroneous and proven to be false assumptions about weight and health/cause and effect! I am so in agreement with your suggestion, AnMarie! I think your turn-about-is-fair-play idea is right on…send the sender a “concerned” postcard—get people to think before they judge…especially when their judgments are based on erroneous and proven to be false assumptions about weight and health/cause and effect!

]]> Comment on “Send that to me and heads would roll!” by Anmarie James http://www.aweighout.com/an-end-to-emotional-eating-desperate-dieting/send-that-to-me-and-heads-would-roll/comment-page-1#comment-1134 Anmarie James Wed, 22 Jun 2011 17:56:08 +0000 http://www.aweighout.com/?p=7848#comment-1134 If I received one of these postcards in the mail, I would be instantly furious, both at the company and the person who requested it. How DARE anyone assume to know more (or know better) about what's right for my health that I do?? And the audacity of the marketing department (not to mention any higher ups involved) that came up with and then APPROVED this hair-brained scheme just floors me. The sad part of the commercial aspect is that it will probably work to some extent, simply because this tactic plays on our emotions and deep-seated need to be accepted/acceptable in today's culture. It won't, however, do any favors for this company's "social status". If I was able to stay angry, and not spiral down into a deep depression of embarrassment, shame, isolation, and hopelessness, I would contact the company and demand to know who gave them my information. Then I would invent a postcard of my own to send to that person...under the guise of being concerned for their health, it would be a postcard from a fictitious organization offering help for their drinking/STD/drug use issues. No, it doesn't resolve any of the issues, but it's representative of the low emotional level I'd be on. A healthier (or wiser) person might use her anger energy to start a campaign to spread "counter intelligence"...statistics and HAES information, etc., in hopes of educating people against such rediculous and emotionally/socially detrimental tactics. After I calmed down and regrouped, I'd jump right on that bandwagon. In fact, where do I sign up? If I received one of these postcards in the mail, I would be instantly furious, both at the company and the person who requested it. How DARE anyone assume to know more (or know better) about what’s right for my health that I do?? And the audacity of the marketing department (not to mention any higher ups involved) that came up with and then APPROVED this hair-brained scheme just floors me. The sad part of the commercial aspect is that it will probably work to some extent, simply because this tactic plays on our emotions and deep-seated need to be accepted/acceptable in today’s culture. It won’t, however, do any favors for this company’s “social status”.

If I was able to stay angry, and not spiral down into a deep depression of embarrassment, shame, isolation, and hopelessness, I would contact the company and demand to know who gave them my information. Then I would invent a postcard of my own to send to that person…under the guise of being concerned for their health, it would be a postcard from a fictitious organization offering help for their drinking/STD/drug use issues. No, it doesn’t resolve any of the issues, but it’s representative of the low emotional level I’d be on.

A healthier (or wiser) person might use her anger energy to start a campaign to spread “counter intelligence”…statistics and HAES information, etc., in hopes of educating people against such rediculous and emotionally/socially detrimental tactics. After I calmed down and regrouped, I’d jump right on that bandwagon. In fact, where do I sign up?

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