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Enough


Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

In today’s dieting culture, the advice to “eat less” (combined with exercise more!) is probably one of the most common phrases we hear. But, as I tell my clients, I can’t imagine less useful advice. Eat less? Less than what? Less OF what?

Taking care of yourself involves learning to pay attention to what you need, and then providing it in adequate amounts, the key word being “enough”. We find balance in life when we get enough: Enough rest and enough activity; enough excitement and enough relaxation; and definitely enough food to provide the energy to live our lives well.

Eating enough can sound like a simple solution. After all, we are born with the innate ability to identify and communicate hunger. Children, if allowed to follow their own body signals, will eat what they need, when they need it. As adults, however, many people shift away from using physical signals for hunger and satiety, and instead use arbitrary measurements that may not have much to do with what constitutes “enough” for them. Some diets certainly fall well short of what a typical person needs, in both calories and nutrients.

Paying attention can be the first step in determining what is enough. Take a look at your typical food intake: Are you getting enough fruits and vegetables? Whole grains? How about calcium and iron sources, which are especially important for women? Is there enough color in your food—dark green, red, yellow and orange? These colors typically represent important nutrients and we certainly don’t want to “eat less” of these.

Slow down, learn to understand yourself and your needs, focus on what works for you and what doesn’t. Stay curious and nonjudgmental: “What is it that I need right now?” The good news is that self care is not a perfect science and doesn’t have to be. There will be days when we don’t get enough sleep, enough food, enough balance. “Enough” is more about the big picture, what you do for yourself most of the time. But the more you pay attention, and learn to know yourself, the better able you are to provide yourself with what you need.

So the next time you hear the advice to “eat less”, just say to yourself, “No thanks. I’m going to take care of myself and eat enough.”

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Jennie Wade, MA, MEd, RD, LD, Body Truth Center for Wellness, LLC 9403 Kenwood Road Suite A120, Cincinnati, OH 45242 www.bodytruthcenter.com

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What Happened?


Monday, June 28th, 2010

Note from Ellen…So many emotional, compulsive, and binge eaters say they can make changes, shifts, for certain periods of time; healthy changes like increased exercise, more healthful eating, self-care practices, etc. But before long they always find themselves back sliding into old unhealthy habits and back into the food. So I asked our Circle Experts to share their experience with this common pattern? I asked what they find missing from these repetitive attempts to change behavior.

Here’s what Mary Boggiano, PhD, who studies the behavioral neuroscience of eating disorders and obesity, had to say:

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There’s a Better Way!


Sunday, June 27th, 2010

There is an alternative way to live!

Today I choose to focus on self-care. I’ll mindfully choose healthy, appealing foods over the ones that leave me feeling like I’m in a fog.  Today I’ll follow through on my self-care commitment to get on my exercise bike, even if only for 5 minutes (just commiting to 5 minutes helps me get on the bike. I know once I’m on it I usually stay longer). Today I will focus on my own behavior vs. the behavior of others because mine is the only behavior I can control. Today I’ll look for opportunities to feel gratitude…

With time and practice (not perfection), I’ve come to trust that living the life I say I want tastes so much sweeter than anything I could ever binge on…

Do you have a plan for today? Would making a plan help you create a healthier, more peaceful day?

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Ellen Shuman is a Life Coach who specializes in emotional and binge eating issues. She is the founder of A Weigh Out & Acoria Eating Disorder Treatment, Vice President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA), and Co-Chair of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”, ellen@aweighout.com

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Dealing With Hurtful Comments


Friday, June 25th, 2010

Recently, a member in the A Weigh Out Empowerment Forum posted a great question about how to deal with hurtful comments. Since this effects so many of us, I wanted to share my response here, as well.

In my experience, it’s never easy to be the recipient of somone else’s negative comment. But here’s what I do these days when I’m feeling hurt by something someone else said.

1. When I start to feel hurt, I step back in my own mind and ask myself if it’s possible that I’m distorting the facts of the situation to fit how I happen to feel about the situation. Is it possible I’m over reacting? Was it really meant to be hurtful or am I just feeling particularly vulnerable today? Then, I have a better shot at adjusting my reaction accordingly.

2. I ask myself…what meaning am I giving to the person’s comment? Even if I decide they meant to be hurtful, just because they said it, does it have to have impact and ruin my day…or even be important to me…or be true…just because they said it? And what if what they said might be true? Can I “neutralize” the impact of the comment long enough to consider if it is something I’d like to address or change about myself…for me? (Not the other person.) Can I shift this particular comment to being useful to me vs. hurtful?

3. All too often, a person makes a comment and then they get on with their day. But we obsess about what they said and make it MUCH bigger. This is something we can learn to stop, by becoming more mindful of this self-defeating and painful habit.

4. Would it be helpful to use your voice here. Speak up and, matter of factly (not accusingly), tell the other person that you felt hurt by what they said. Say you’d like to check it out with them. Ask if they’d be willing to talk it through with you. BTW…this will work with some poeple…others might feel threatened by it, no matter how effectively you use your voice to start such a discussion.

A note…research has shown that people with binge eating disorder tend to have “higher interpersonal sensitivity” than the population, in general. This might explain, in part, why people with emotional and binge eating issues often feel so vulnerable to what other people say.

And one more note…sometimes people can just be plain rude!

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Ellen Shuman is a Life Coach who specializes in emotional and binge eating issues. She is the founder of A Weigh Out & Acoria Eating Disorder Treatment, Vice President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA), and Co-Chair of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”, ellen@aweighout.com

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Weigh-In at The Doctor’s Office–Bad for Your Health?


Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010

It strikes fear and shame in the hearts of many. It’s the prospect of having to go to the doctor for a true medical issue and knowing you’ll be asked to step on the scale before you see the doctor.

Recently a client told me she had an appointment to have a small mole removed. Still, she knew she’d be asked to weigh-in. 

Many women avoid going to the doctor because of this issue. As health advocates, most of my colleages and I encourage women to make any/all visits to the doctor fit their comfort level and health needs!  If weighing makes you uncomfortable, if it keeps you from getting regular check-ups, pap smears, mammograms, medical care when needed, ask yourself, “Currently, do I have any medical condition that truly requires the doctor track my weight?” If not, where is it written that you have to get weighed at the doctor’s office?

When the nurse asks me to get on the scale, I simply say, “No thank you. I don’t weigh.”

If a nurse tells you the doctor requires it (this has never happened to me), simply say, “I’ll be happy to discuss that with the doctor”. I have never had any nurse question my choice. If they want to check my height, they are welcome to do so. For that you get on the scale backwards…

If saying, “no thank you” does not feel like enough, try one of these…

“No thank you. I don’t find getting weighed to be very helpful.” “No thank you. The scale doesn’t tell me anything I don’t already know.” “No thank you. I’m working on emotional eating issues and getting on the scale doesn’t add anything useful to the effort.”

You are entitled to health care. Please don’t let a mechanical box make you sick!

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Ellen Shuman is a Life Coach who specializes in emotional and binge eating issues. She is the founder of A Weigh Out & Acoria Eating Disorder Treatment, Vice President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA), and Co-Chair of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”, ellen@aweighout.com

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Understanding Organics


Monday, June 21st, 2010

There is a growing body of research indicating the presence of pesticides and contaminants in the foods we eat, and organic foods can help us to reduce the exposure to these types of chemicals. Organic food may cost more, but the good news is that some foods, such as asparagus and broccoli,

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Tooth or Consequences-How to Reduce Risk of Heart Disease


Friday, June 18th, 2010

If your mother told you to brush your teeth twice a day, she was giving you great advice!   If you do not brush your teeth twice a day, you have an increased risk of heart disease, according to a new University College London, UK study (published online May 27, BMJ, author is Prof Richard Watt).

While researchers had previosuly established that inflammation in the body (including mouth and gums) plays an important role in the buildup of fatty material (cholesterol) in the arteries, this is the first study to

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Do You Look Like a Salad?


Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

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Ellen Shuman is a Life Coach who specializes in emotional and binge eating issues. She is the founder of A Weigh Out & Acoria Eating Disorder Treatment, Vice President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA), and Co-Chair of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”, ellen@aweighout.com

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Out of Salmon. How About Some Snack Bars, Instead? Huh?


Monday, June 14th, 2010

I hate food shopping!  So in an effort to reduce trips, I buy everything I can in quantity at Costco. It was almost 90 degrees here yesterday. I did not want to go to Costco, but doing so was “self-care”. It was about living in line with my intentions. I had had a very busy week! I was out of salmon and almost everything else I enjoy eating.  When I’m stressed and my frig and cupboards are bare, I am at risk for emotional eating. I know this to be one of my truths!  If I don’t have healthy, appealing foods in the house I am much more likely to find my focus wandering to other less satisfying and less healthy foods (fast food, pizza, and/or chinese delivery).  

So, when I woke up yesterday morning 

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Sacred Planning Time = Self-Care


Saturday, June 12th, 2010

“Friday mornings are my sacred mornings.”

Fear and anxiety over missing some deadline or some appointment used to drive Jackie (one of my coaching clients, not her real name), to emotional eating.  I hear this often!  Heck, I regularly overate when I was anxious that something would fall through the cracks.

Recently Jackie told me she has created “space” in her week to do “big picture” planning.  Now, she schedules an appointment with herself every Friday morning to look at the week that just past…and at the week coming up.  She calls this her “sacred” time.  By scheduling and honoring this commitment to herself, she has eliminated her old nagging, anxious feeling that she was letting stuff slide and that she’d pay for it later on.

 ” I just know my week will be better as a result…”

I just freed up

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